Last day of High School.
Took me a while to breathe it in, take in the reality, and know that this is my last day of high school. Overdramatic. But still, every moment of stress over grades, relationship problems, friendships being tested, family problems hitting you left and right, and managing my life with all of these elements fused together, made me think that it all happened for a reason. Everything does. I learned to forgive, be forgiven, love, take a leap of faith, mature, and cherish each moment I have with the ones I love. When you take too much time questioning the morals, the actions, and the critical decisions of others, you don’t allow yourself to live.
Lessons learned and for others to learn:
1. Forgive, maybe not forget. I believe that things will be okay. I have faith in people. I always have and don’t ever question otherwise. I know times get rough, but take ownership of problems and let grudges go. I know coming from me, wow, but honestly I truly have learned.
2. Grudge and hatred is what breeds the grounds of unhappiness with life. I know how much things hurt when people betray your trust, your kindness, or your hospitality. When you invest so much in people, it hurts so much to know that they didn’t return that investment. But I’ve learned to let go and love. It makes life that much easier.
3. Don’t be afraid to fall. This is what many have expressed. Fear. It is an obstacle that have impeded as so many before you from getting to where they want to go. You have a right to be scared, and you have a right to that fear of making mistakes and failing. But do not allow that to keep you from where you want to go. Those who have courage does not mean they don’t have fear, but do not allow themselves to be hindered by it.
4. Don’t regret. Allow yourself to look back, learn, and move forward. It will be difficult, but you cannot let it stop you from living too.
5. Treat others the way you want to be treated. A wise woman once told me that if you want people to show kindness, show it to them first. People need a little push in order for them to open up but allow that to be a passage to who they are. Be kind, respect who they are and never fail to listen.
6. Be empathetic. Learn to give people the benefit of the doubt and attempt to understand. People are never going to be perfect and remember that people’s actions are driven by what they have experienced. Each person is different with each one having a different perspective on life. Understanding that is key to being friends or simply a good person.
7. Love. What a kind of simple word that stands for something so complex and interesting to attempt to understand. When engulfed by it, its something very wonderful and sweet, but confusing at the same time. I would know, I’m just as confused as everyone else. But just learn to love people, flaws and all.
8. Don’t have expectations from life and others. Life is full of unexpected events and problems you never thought you would have. Auntie Karen once told me, Expectations breed unhappiness because youre looking for something that life will not always give you. When you expect things, it leads to disappointment if things dont go your way.
9. Trust that things will be okay. Sometimes things have to get worse before they get better. But I know in my heart that everything will be fine, and that my perspective on how I view life is just how everything will turn out. Life is what you make of it. (fortune cookie saying)
10. Live, Laugh, Learn. I see this so often, but it truly is a constant reminder of just how lovely life can be.
I’m just saying this as I go. I know I have a lot to learn, but based off of how much I truly have gone through I’ve learned this much. I only wish for the best for the people I love because I truly think everyone deserves a chance to be happy.
PS. I wrote this as a private journal a while ago to myself, but I like to remind myself about this stuff. I liked what I wrote and I hope you guys do too.
